You’re a human being, and it happens when you experience a difficult situation, such as long-term unemployment.
You deal with a lot of different emotions. One of which is shame.
Shame of Unemployment
For the long-term unemployed, it’s the shame of not having a job and “positively contributing to society” – according to the views of others.
As the Christmas holiday approaches, you’re in a cringe. Why? Because you dread this one question people will ask when they see you at social gatherings:
- “Have you gotten a job yet?”
Very few people directly understand your situation and someone might respond with some kind of insensitive comment when you answer this question.
Upon hearing this insensitivity, you know you’ll start another cycle of blaming yourself – and possibly believe the lies brought on by the insensitive comment.
So, you prefer to stay at home. Right?
I understand. I really do.
You know society defines you by your occupational status. Certainly, a job is one of the many things people are proud of.
You dislike the feeling of believing something is wrong with you because you don’t have a job – not to mention you can’t secure one.
Truth be told, however, you absolutely prefer to be employed but are experiencing the effects of something totally beyond your control.
You’re diligent in your job search efforts but are constantly rejected for employment opportunities.
Landing a job is hard these days. So, why should you walk around in shame because of your present circumstances? You didn’t voluntarily choose to become one of the unemployed and are willing and able to work.
As someone also personally dealing with long-term unemployment, I encourage you not to be ashamed of your unemployment situation or your inability to secure a job offer.
Ways to Deal with the Shame of Unemployment
If you’re interested in releasing this heavy weight off of your shoulders, I am glad for you and will provide you with the ways in which I’ve learned to deal with the shame of being unemployed.
- Mindset Is Important: In my opinion, your mental state as discussed in my One of those “Blue” Days: Fighting Discouragement article is very important when dealing with the shame of unemployment.
- Replacing Falsity with Truth Is Important: In my 3 Ways to Deal with Self-Doubt article, I discussed the importance of recognizing voices, such as self-doubt, rejecting them, and replacing them with truth.
You cannot believe something is wrong with you because of your situation and move forward in dealing with the shame of it.
Side Tracking Moment : A job is a great way to provide our necessities and more but doesn’t define you.
Please don’t let your unemployed status cause you to see yourself as worthless or as a failure in this life. If you do, it’ll only lead to more shame – and other problems.
Never lose sight of your worthiness, skills, competence, and value. I think this is one of the most important lessons you can learn in the midst of dealing with unemployment.
Back on Track: I think you’ll benefit from checking out those two articles as well.
From there, you can manage this shame in the following ways.
- Don’t See Your Situation As Something Shameful. The number of unemployed people is increasing daily, and there are various reasons for unemployment. These reasons vary anywhere from personal responsibilities to business changes and financial crisis to market issues, such as supply and demand. It’s not your fault. Many things are beyond your control.
- Don’t Knock the Importance of Self-Perception. The way you view yourself at this time is very important. Don’t engage in self-loathing. Instead love yourself. You shouldn’t feel less than anyone because you’re unemployed. Always keep in mind who and whose you are.
- Don’t Give in to Others’ Negativity. You’re aware of people’s negativity and perspective toward the long-term unemployed, but don’t allow the negativity to personally affect you. Their views say a lot about them and their character. They’ll never understand your life – or challenge – like you do so don’t worry about them. Forgive them and keep it moving.
From Me to You: Please don’t allow the shame of unemployment to take over you. I must say true healing only comes from your creator, God through Jesus Christ, so connection is important. Make it a day by day journey toward improvement from shame.
How have you dealt with the shame of unemployment? Please share below.