Job hunting is no easy process. Job seekers spend many hours searching for and identifying employment opportunities; many hours preparing customized resumes and cover letters to the required qualifications and criteria; many hours attending interviews leading to NO job offers; and receive many rejections.
Without a doubt, these things can weigh you down emotionally. One such strong emotion (i.e., feeling) job seekers experience is: anger.
Anger during the Job Search
I stumbled upon a published article by Arlene S. Hirsch, a Career Counselor, titled, Don’t Let Anger Sink Your Job Search and believe it’s worth your read.
I must note she focuses on managing the anger of a job loss so others can move on with their job search activities. However, in my opinion, this article also applies to those embarked on a job search and experiencing anger in the following ways:
- Anger (or frustration) resulting from your inability to secure some type of legal employment despite your many efforts;
- Anger (or frustration) resulting from the silence of employers upon submitting applications and not hearing anything back;
- Anger (or frustration) resulting from the belief (sometimes resulting from the insensitivity of others) something is wrong with you because your job search has been a lengthy one.
Does any of this sound familiar?
In such a situation, you’ll struggle with anger and frustration at some point or even from time to time. And, your reaction is important.
When you find yourself dealing with anger in your job search, how do you react to it? Do you have a handle on it quickly? Do you express it correctly – that is, in a healthy manner?
Consider it in terms of a boss and subordinate relationship. When dealing with anger, do you accept the role of subordinate to your anger and act accordingly, or do you accept the role of boss and don’t give in to your anger?
You’ve probably heard uncontrolled anger is something serious.
Ways to Handle Anger in Your Job Search
Please be the boss and don’t walk around as an angry person letting your anger wreck you and those around you. The next time you feel angry during your search, remember to release this emotion calmly and productively.
In Ms. Hirsch’s article, she provides 5 great tips for managing anger and resentment in your job search. Here are a couple of her tips:
Grieve the loss. Give yourself time to feel sad about losing your job, says Diane Wilson, a Chicago-based career counselor. In fact, processing your feelings before moving into job-search mode may be one of the most important things you do. Otherwise you may inadvertently undermine or sabotage your job-search efforts.
Train yourself to think positively. Reconditioning yourself to think positively can help reduce your negative thoughts and emotions, says Ms. Wilson. If you can think differently about your situation, you may see other possibilities for yourself. “When you’ve already written the ending to the story, your mind is closed to opportunity,” she says. “You have to stop the tape.”
Be sure to read the rest of Don’t Let Anger Sink Your Job Search for her other three tips.
Arlene S. Hirsch’s article referenced above originally appeared on CareerJournal.com.
I would like to end this article with this.
One of the most important things you can do when experiencing an emotion, such as anger (or frustration), is stop and evaluate it. Question why you’re dealing with such an emotion.
For example, when it comes to anger resulting from your inability to secure employment despite your efforts, it helps to understand why anger is resulting from this.
In my opinion and from my experience, this evaluation will allow you to get your thought processes together and put things into proper perspective as you move forward with your job search.
From Me to You: Upon dealing with unemployment, long-term, you might find yourself dealing with anger and frustration in your job search. When you find yourself dealing with these powerful emotions, pay attention to how you react to them.
Sense your anger, breathe, handle it gracefully, and work through it.
Disclaimer 1: I am not an HR or Career Professional by training. When I write on job search topics, I write from the perspective of a job seeker with experience in job searching.
Disclaimer 2: This article features an outgoing link to the work of Career Counselor Arlene S. Hirsch, MA.
P. S. Have you experienced anger in your job search? If so, what other tips would you add?