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How Detaching From Outcomes Helped Me Maintain Serenity While Looking for a Job

While engaged in reflection today, I thought about my lengthy, traditional job search experiences. Upon reflection, I now notice something I didn’t when I started: I (unintentionally) relied on my efforts for the achievement of my goal – getting a job. Too much.

I wanted to re-enter the workforce quickly after my solo experience in elder care. In no way did I want my job search to fail. In no way did I want to experience the trap of long-term unemployment. And, I focused on learning and putting into action every job hunt tip and method I could with the hope of getting hired quickly.

This did more harm than good.

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Comparing Your Career to Others, Comparing Yourself to Others

Why Comparing Careers Is A Destructive Activity (And 3 Things to Do Instead)

Do you compare your career to others (virtual or actual) and feel discouraged?

You believed you’d “succeed” in your chosen profession.

You earned a degree or two to prepare for this success. You acquired some workforce experience along the way.

But now, as you send (or have been sending) out those resumes, covers and interview, you can’t (or haven’t been able to) get 1 job offer.

You look around and others are getting jobs easily. Some are advancing in their careers through promotions.

And, you wonder:

How are they getting these jobs, and I can’t land one? How are they advancing in their careers, and I’m failing?

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Things You Should Know About Unemployment

7 Things You Should Know About Unemployment

I’ve been walking through the unemployment wilderness for some time now. As someone experiencing long-term unemployment, I’m familiar with an unexpected change in life. However, I’ve learned how to get through this – one of the hardest transitions of my life.

Glancing back, I’ve learned a few things throughout this experience. And below, I’ll provide 7 of them.

Things You Should Know About Unemployment
7 Things You Should Know About Unemployment.
Unsplash Original Photo Courtesy of Stefan Kunze. Edited by Me.

I hope they prove beneficial to you as you push through this time of difficulty.

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8 Qualities Worthy of Pursuit in Unemployment

In a Reverb Press op-ed piece I came across last week, Lorelei describes being unemployed in the following way:

“Being Unemployed Is Like a Slow-Motion Heart Attack.” – Lorelei, Reverb Press

The writer presents an accurate reality of unemployment. So accurate, I can’t deny it.

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8 Qualities Worthy of Pursuit in Unemployment.
Original Photo Courtesy of Creative Vix. Edited by Me.

You can check out more by clicking the link below:

Lorelei, Being Unemployed Is Like a Slow-Motion Heart Attack │ Reverb Press

Still, I decided to make the most of my unemployment time. I decided to continue my growth and development as a person.

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Attitude of Gratitude; Unemployed Gratitude

An Attitude of Gratitude (Even In Tough Times)

You’ve seen this suggested on Serenity Amidst Frustration several times. You might’ve even wondered at some point, “How can she suggest this at such a time?”

Be grateful.

Give thanks.

And by this, I mean be grateful when things are difficult.

Have you found this suggestion odd?

Gratitude or Ingratitude

Attitude of Gratitude
An Attitude of Gratitude (Even In Tough Times)
Unsplash Original Photo Courtesy of Michael Rosner-Hyman. Edited by Me.

When experiencing a life transition, such as unemployment, you face many challenges every day. One of the biggest challenges comes in the form of financial strain. There’s always some kind of stress related to money.

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3 Benefits I Received During Difficulty

Have you ever experienced a change or a difficult season in your life to which you felt helpless and scared at its onset?

My answer to this question is a resounding YES.

My Life Change

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3 Benefits I Received During Difficulty
Creative Commons’ Flickr Photo Courtesy of Chiara Cremaschi.

This change for me involved my joining the ranks of the unemployed – then quickly, the long-term unemployed – a little over two years ago.

I didn’t see it coming. Quickly, I became challenged by both unemployment and the job search.

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